The first episode of „hold off, So is this a night out together?“ is actually formally wherever you hear podcasts! Get in on the one and only Christina Tucker and me personally once we perform a seriously individual online game of Fuck, U-Haul, Ghost and go over our very own major subject of this few days: Believe People Are towards You.

We make fun of! We cry! We read about our selves! (Okay we do not cry because we are both planet signs with emotional walls, but we do have feelings.)

And because we’re a unique podcast if you love this occurrence please rate and overview!

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PROGRAM RECORDS

+ Christina mentions that she slid into my personal DMs about
your

Ocean’s 11

live browse
.

+ But we knew she in fact slid into my DMs a lot earlier on as a result for this nicole aniston insta tale of mine:

+ Here are some more pleasurable screenshots from that basic convo:

+ And discover once I required the woman telephone number:

+We recorded this event a long time back and I also would like to formally respond to my personal very first FUG with fuck Jinkx, U-Haul with Symone, and ghost Carmen. (Sorry, Carmen, I adore you.)

+The
songs video clip
for Tx’ „popular“ with Alan Rickman that has been formative for Christina.

+A
enjoyable test
of Catherine Zeta Jones’ contemporary Instagram existence. Okay
listed here is another
.

+The offer we reference from

Detransition, Baby

:

„Jen was clearly a real transsexual. Amy had never came across a trans lady face-to-face, and her fascination with Jen bordered on agonizing. Examine the lady. She looks like a woman. She sounds like a lady. More than that, Amy believed, she wished anything from Jen. something similar to sexual appeal, but shaded in a different way. Something nearer to the thrill she felt whenever a hollywood passed by. Of a nameless hoping in the direction of that star. The abstract beckoning that famous people exude. The gravitational extract regarding reputation that tugged at Amy so she felt stressed is near, to be noticed, and also to end up being respected. Feeling those celebrity eyes move without friction throughout the smooth surface of a clamoring fandom, subsequently unexpectedly catch upon their, prevent lifeless, and come back the woman look. That second of mutual identification, this is the best possible way to possess the presence stamped appropriate, to transcend the anonymity of mere enthusiast, of inconsequential gawker. Jen’s was a noncelebrity celebrity that Amy could feel. A pull that perhaps

just

she would feel. Amy kept looking at see in which into the shop Jen was.“

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Christina:

It was bantery and it’s really as you and that I both discover banter to get, or even the greatest thing — well, no, we simply believe it is to get the greatest thing.

Drew:

Indeed 100per cent.

Christina:

I believe we simply find it getting the hottest thing. And that I think because we got along very well, we normally fell into some banter, which for people, once again, translates into hot, cool, online dating, flirting vibes.

Theme song performs

Drew:

Hi, I Am Drew.

Christina:

Hi, I Am Christina.

Drew:

And this is,

Hold Off, Is This A Date?

Christina:

An Autostraddle podcast, focused on issue: hold off, is this time?

Drew:

Can it be?

Christina:

Well, perhaps that it is the job to find that out and tell the viewers?

Drew:

Cool. It is very early. We will find out how we think at the conclusion.

Christina:

Start, yeah.

Drew:

Cool.

Christina:

Will we should inform the people who we have been or can we should just form of leave all of them during the shady mud?

Drew:

I’m able to go initially.

Christina:

Yeah. Let me know who you really are. I’d like to know.

Drew:

Yeah. My name is Drew Gregory, I’m a writer and filmmaker and gay and trans, certainly not in this purchase. I composed for Autostraddle since autumn of 2018. I write a large amount about flicks and television, but also lots about online dating, specifically dating as a trans woman in lesbian community. Also a good many films I write are about trans lesbians, therefore a genuine through line here. Oh, and in case it was not clear, Everyone loves dating. And most that, I adore speaing frankly about internet dating.

Christina:

Its certainly my personal favorite things about you, how much cash you simply want to day and speak about it and do all of this. What I’m gonna call junk, just generally.

Drew:

Positive.

Christina:

I Am Christina Tucker. I’m additionally an author at Autostraddle. I have been here since 2019. Im a podcaster and blogger, i’ve showed up on different podcasts. I co-host a podcast known as

Unfriendly Black Hotties

about intersection of race and higher ed and pop culture. I am form of merely on the net, like a loud net queer is actually how I would frequently explain me. We, unlike Drew, hate matchmaking and therefore the podcast was born, I would personally say. Can you state Drew?

Drew:

Yeah. I do believe that’s been a pretty regular thing throughout our friendship is that it is one of the best topics and one of your own least favorite subjects. I believe there are a great number of steps we are very similar, but that’s the manner by which we are maybe not similar. We in addition, we can provide this context but, we did not really know one another prior to the pandemic. So that you had been chosen at Autostraddle fall of 2019, just like you stated, and that I understood of you because of that. But then just like the very first few days on the pandemic, for reasons uknown we began chatting inside DMs. I really don’t remember which folks slid into whoever DMs. Will you recall?

Christina:

I would like to state, I slid into your DMs as you had been undertaking that table read of

Ocean’s 11.

And I was like, „Is

Ocean’s 11

the greatest film ever produced? Discuss.“ So we were both want, „Yeah, it actually is.“ Then types of from that point we really went.

Drew:

Yeah. Then we simply were messaging a bunch. And then for some reason, really, at some time i acquired your phone number, immediately after which rapidly into having your number we started delivering voice memos versus text messages.

Drew, in voice memo:

So I’m only probably reveal the feelings that We have, and then you can go following that and reply to me, not answer me, whatever. This can be myself becoming direct and obvious.

Drew:

And that was actually sort of all of our friendship for year was you just for periods of time, like all day, sending a long time voice memos backwards and forwards, which we would always joke had been like a podcast. And then someday earlier in the day this present year I became very stoned and sent you a voice memo that has been like, „what whenever we really had a podcast?“ And also the after that day, unlike, In my opinion, some other time we delivered you a higher voice memo, you were like, „which is actually recommended.“

Christina:

Yeah. Oftentimes, because Drew and that I survive face-to-face coasts, I go to sleep and I also awaken to like a small number of sound memos from Drew, often large, occasionally not. And often I hear all of them when I’m coming out of a slumber. And that I say, „which is my friend Drew. She is having a personal experience that i did not enjoy because i am over here asleep.“ Right after which I type of only move forward with my day, answer while I feel like it, when it’s required. They generally’re just, „it is a thing I found myself contemplating.“ But this option, I said, „No, that that friend of mine is onto something. She’s had gotten a genuine concept taking place and then we should be carrying this out.“ And now right here our company is. I am truly excited though. I believe it’s going to be great. I believe we’re actually fun. In my opinion we are fun to talk to. And that I think you writing on matchmaking will be no less than very interesting for those to listen to.

Drew:

I might say-so. I have a little bit of an ego on me. I’m a Leo increasing and a Capricorn sunlight, therefore. But i actually do often imagine like, you’ll deliver me personally a voice memo referring ton’t even about me, it is not about my pride. It’s about just considering you are great. And being love, „Oh my Jesus, that is fantastic. And that I want other people were hearing this very amusing thing Christina ended up being stating.“ And now everybody can!

Christina:

Really, I’m also a Leo rising. To ensure is proven to work away well. We know each other really well, however, beautiful listeners, have no idea you. Therefore weare going to perform somewhat icebreaker to get understand us, analyze all of our ambiance, familiarize yourself with, I guess what we should’re into online dating a good idea, in order to pay attention to this podcast and start to become aware about the taste. Usually correct?

Drew:

That seems actually precise. I love the theory that a game of, „Fuck, U-Haul, Ghost“ is likely to be that showing for our audience. However you know what? I do believe it will. In my opinion whom you need screw and U-Haul and ghost with are informing. I think.

Christina:

Yeah, i do believe therefore also.

Drew:

I really could begin.

Christina:

I believe you will start.

Drew:

Okay.

Christina:

Yeah. You are actually browsing start as you dropped only a little sign yesterday in my experience that you were cackling with delight while you were getting these with each other. So I want to see what you’ve accomplished, ma’am.

Drew:

I just had been like, wow, I absolutely know Christina so well. Oh, additional thing men and women ought to know is we have never fulfilled.

Christina:

Oh, appropriate.!

Drew:

Physically.

Christina:

Yeah, no, we live on face-to-face coasts and that I do not know if you know, but we have been residing on a damn, Paul Blart mall cop, so we never, we haven’t met.

Drew:

Yet, i am aware you so well. Therefore, the first the one that I would like to start with is like genuine standard. Like i am thinking decades long, Christina’s really love when we found and Christina’s really love today. So your three options are Allison Janney.

Allison Janney:


That’s my little man. You my personal little man? Which is my 6th partner there. The best of them.

Drew:

Michelle Gomez.

Michelle Gomez:


I Am Missy. Welcome to paradise.

Drew:

And Jennifer Aniston.

Jennifer Aniston:


Hi Brad. You know how adorable? I always believed you used to be.

Christina:

This really is challenging. Actually, it’s not that difficult. I’m going to need ghost Jen. I really like Jen. I do believe the woman work is amazing. Our company is both soles there’s very little that could occur truth be told there. And I also believe’s fantastic. I believe that is beautiful, but that’s just not gonna be what will take place. Clearly, screw, it is going to have to be Michelle Gomez. She’s a little Scottish lunatic. Her beginning information is crazy. Lot of Scorpio inside, countless Sag. That will be an enjoyable time. Everyday, i am a tourist. That isn’t likely to work-out for all of us. So we’re going to get one merely fun evening, perhaps a weekend, who are able to state, I am not sure exactly what the details of your bang are. Nonetheless it’ll end up being enjoyable then she will go off and carry out whatever she really does. And baby Alice and that I will simply definitely U-Haul, only U-Haul away. We’re going to have a lot of fun. I recognize that our beginning maps are very suitable and I think that’s great. Therefore I believed was going to end up being hard also it was actually quite easy and maybe…

Drew:

Great. Everyone loves that. That you could potentially pull in particular research about these folks, i believe is truly breathtaking, and I’m truly happy individually and Alison, that it is inside movie stars.

Christina:

Thanks. Cheers such. Individually, I wanted to hit three things that I’m sure you love. Therefore first we’re carrying out a drag race version.

Drew:

Great.

Christina:

We are doing Symone.

Symone:


Don’t allow the smooth-face fool you baby.

Christina:

We’re saying Jinkx.

Jinkx:


I am Seattle’s top Jewish narcoleptic drag queen.

Christina:

Therefore we’re claiming, Carmen Carrera.

Carmen:


Raja’s acquiring nude. I am like, that is likely to be hot because Carmen is actually nudity and now we’re going to put all the way down today.

Drew:

Ooh. Okay. See, i am terrible at hypothetical video games because i do believe through all of them all night. We do not have several hours, and so I’m going to you will need to repeat this very well. In my opinion I have to ghost Carmen.

Christina:

I do believe you will do too. That was my idea. But—

Drew:

I detest to achieve that.

Christina:

You hate to see it.

Drew:

I am actually split between, I don’t know. Okay, and so I do know that Symone’s also a Capricorn, Jinkx is actually a Virgo. I’ve in fact never dated another Capricorn or a Virgo. I believe, okay. Its just as if the stakes are as high as i am actually going to U-Haul because of this person.

Christina:

No. It is like, you’re leave of one’s apartment to discover they about street getting like, „Well, we heard what you chose.“ I’m sure that is what’s taking place in your head at this time.

Drew:

I do believe that i will screw Symone and U-Haul with Jinkx. And my thinking behind that’s that In my opinion that according to in which they are at within their life, I think Symone is actually, predicated on this current period of drag battle, remains functioning through a few things and maybe isn’t really ready for this degree of a connection, which is very mean in my situation to state, but I feel like Jinkx is, In my opinion just got engaged. Thus in my own view, if she’s ready to get engaged, so.

Christina:

I favor you are getting this actuality fuel engrossed as though me openly phoning Jennifer Anderson a base is like, science reality.

Drew:

You could also flip that though and point out that i will U-Haul with Symone. I truly don’t know if Symone’s solitary, but Jinkx actually readily available for a committed connection. Anyways, these are typically my personal views. Should we move on?

Christina:

Yeah. This is really an extremely positive thing for listeners to learn. This is actually the level that Drewwill simply take every thing we discuss. Therefore simply grab yourself prepared for this. She actually is prepared. I’m ready. Here we get.

Drew:

Okay. So subsequent i needed doing a male release because something is actually enjoyable would be that i am aware that despite you distinguishing as a lesbian, there is certainly a particular style of guy that you are interested in.

Christina:

Yeah, it really is bad.

Drew:

Therefore the three choices are, Roy on

Ted Lasso

as starred by Brett Goldstein.

Roy:


Jesus, Mary, and fuck face Joseph, eyes regarding the man you’re establishing, seriously!

Drew:

Corey Ellison on

The Day Program

as played by Billy Crudup.

Corey:


If the guy desires fire myself, he’s going to fucking shoot me personally. I really don’t need this work. Really the only reason i am carrying it out is because it really is fun. I am extremely, excellent at it. And it’s easier to get put if you are employed.

Drew:

And Alan Rickman inside the Tx music video clip, „popular,“ which will be an extremely certain thing i am aware about Christina, that she likes that songs video and enjoys Alan Rickman inside it.

Christina:

We am… seriously, this is so more difficult versus very first one. I am needs to feel just like I have to do a rather Drew-level, in-depth, strong diving. I eventually got to reorganize myself personally. Okay. Okay. So the thing is, Alan Rickman is actually lifeless, so I carry out feel just like I have to ghost on him, unfortunately, because he ghosted on me 1st — approximately that songs movie was formative for my personal sex, we’ll add a web link within tv series notes to that music video, it’s significantly vital, everybody else enjoy it. Absolutely a second at a gas place, anyway. He is a ghost. So I will in turn ghost him. Now, Roy and Corey, it is hard. Corey does not have many sexual energy in my opinion as played by Billy on

The Morning Program.

He’s simply kind of like a chaos demon, and that is fun, but I don’t know, intercourse smart, if something’s going on indeed there for him. It generally does not really seem like something which’s on his radar ever. So I could be tempted to wed Corey and just have per night of enthusiasm with Roy Kent, and move ahead. Leave him to Keeley as he deserves, and go on with Cory where he’s operating a network of some sort. Yeah. I think this is the answer. I think it really is ghost Alan Rickman, who, as clear, ghosted me personally first. Fuck Corey Ellison. Nope. Hold off, was actually that a Freudian slide? Hard to say. No, it wasn’t. I recently forgot. Fuck Roy Kent. Marry Cory Ellison. Wow. I am perspiring. That was difficult. Which was really hard. Alright. For you, definitely, I got to-do an actor’s release considering who you are as you. So we’ve got Lola Rodriguez.

Lola Rodriguez:


[Speaking in Spanish]

Christina:

Indya Moore.

Indya Moore:


It is a lot more difficult to occur as opposed simply to walk in this dress.

Christina:

And Jamie Clayton.

Jamie Clayton:


Oh, seriously. Girls must love that wall structure you have developed. But seriously, i am stoked that you’re here. I wish your whole club was full of women like you.

Drew:

Wow. Okay.

Christina:

Given that it works out, i understand you also, pal.

Drew:

I must say I love the commitment to trans actors, also.

Christina:

Yeah, puppy. Once again, we state i understand you.

Drew:

Okay. Its thus funny when it is queer actors, trans stars, where I’m love, „i will satisfy you at a celebration someday and that I’m likely to be sorry for whatever I state about yourself on the internet.“ I will ghost Jamie because she actually is directly.

Christina:

Fair adequate.

Drew:

So when very much like I like… I do not fall for cis straight ladies, but I do fall for trans straight girls. And I think that is my right as a gay trans woman.

Christina:

Yeah. It is.

Drew:

But I’m still likely to ghost Jamie because i believe it is simply more healthy for me personally never to make an effort to do that. I believe I’m going to shag Lola Rodriguez because I do not actually understand if… I am not sure exactly how much English she speaks and I also don’t speak Spanish. So I believe… after all, whenever we U-Hauled, i do believe we would find out which maybe excellent.

Christina:

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